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Just received an email from a friend about her 40th birthday party… 
27th-May-2009 01:50 pm
Sad.
Just received an email from a friend about her 40th birthday party that had been scheduled for June 20th.   Was not expecting her to say it had been cancelled because she just found out she has breast cancer, and will be having a double mastectomy on June 16th. 

Reading those words felt like a gut punch.  I've been sick, shaky, tearful and nauseous ever since.  She must feel like that times about ten million.   She has already been through so much in her life, and has tried for nearly 10 years to have a child, to no avail.  Now this.  Rotten and unfair.

I hate you, cancer.
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27th-May-2009 07:12 pm (UTC)
I have a friend who's in chemo right now for breast cancer. She's 36. It sucks rocks, indeed. HUGS, Lisa.
2nd-Jun-2009 05:07 pm (UTC)
Aw, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. 36 is sooooo young. I hope she is beating cancer's stupid ass.

HUGS back to you!
2nd-Jun-2009 05:11 pm (UTC)
Thanks Lisa. I hope they both show it the door.
27th-May-2009 09:00 pm (UTC)
That's horrible! *hugs*
2nd-Jun-2009 05:08 pm (UTC)
Thanks! Life throws some mean curve balls sometimes, huh?
27th-May-2009 09:06 pm (UTC)
that's terrible news.

the treatment sounds pretty drastic - i hope that's because they think her prognosis is good.

my friend lolliejean is going through cancer treatment right now, and she's doing it like a diva. i also know someone IRL who is recovering from breast cancer.

your friend is young and is clearly getting good treatment since it's scheduled so soon. i will keep my fingers crossed and send out whatever voodoo/thoughts/prayers i can.

xox
2nd-Jun-2009 05:09 pm (UTC)
Thank you!

I hope your friends who are also battling this are doing well. It seems like cancer has really ramped things up lately, and it makes me want to beat stuff with my shoe.
27th-May-2009 09:40 pm (UTC)
i'm so sorry :(

she's lucky to have you as a friend <3
2nd-Jun-2009 05:09 pm (UTC)
Thank you! I wish there was something I can do, but I hope just being there is enough. She is tough and has a good attitude, and that has to help.
27th-May-2009 11:24 pm (UTC)
OMG, I can imagine that you would be crushed by this news. I pray to God that she gets through the mastectomy safely and she has a very supportive doctor and team with the radiation and chemo she'll have to go through. I'm sure you being there for her will be a huge help honey. Remember that there is no right thing to say, and that listening is a gift as is just being there sometimes in a compatible silence. They've come a long way over the past 5 to 10 years dealing with cancer in women who are younger.

My sister-in-law's sister just had a mastectomy in August a few days before her 40th birthday. I got to see her as she was visiting Michigan. She was numb at first and very thrown...of course!!! Now she has had the radiation and chemo and the reconstructive surgery which is helping her more than she realized it would. She's doing very very well, which is why I wanted to share this with you so that you'll know that you friend will get through this and that your support and love will be a big part of helping her deal with it. You're a very loving person and that's what she needs right now is that love and kindness you possess that is evident even through a computer screen.

I'll be sure to pray and then pray some more for your friend.

*hugs*
2nd-Jun-2009 05:12 pm (UTC)
Thanks Pam! I'm so glad your sister-in-law is doing well. Very scary stuff, man.

Thank you for your kind words!
27th-May-2009 11:40 pm (UTC)
Breast cancer is rampant. My cousin's wife just had a mastectomy for it as well, about a month ago. She is in good spirits but I say a prayer for her every time I drive by their house.
Best wishes to your friend, Lisa, and to you as well. It is so hard to know what to say to a person who is going through it. *hug*
2nd-Jun-2009 05:13 pm (UTC)
Thank you! You are so right about it being rampant, it seems like I hear every day about someone new having it.

Hugs back to you, and I hope your cousin's wife makes a full recovery.
28th-May-2009 12:22 am (UTC)
God what a kick in the ass. Maybe you could bring her a really great gift when you visit in the hospital?
2nd-Jun-2009 05:15 pm (UTC)
I definitely will, and from what I have seen, she has been lavished with chocolate from her husband, so hopefully that is helping in the meantime.
29th-May-2009 01:38 pm (UTC)
Oh, honey, I am so sorry. I have no words of wisdom or even of comfort. I do wish I was close enough to come share cupcakes with you in person. It IS rotten and unfair. I am hoping that the quick scheduling means a great prognosis for the future. I also hope that your friend has a husband that can provide the emotional support she will need when it comes to dealing with the new look of her body. Women put so much of their self-worth in how we look and the breasts are a big part of that...I pray for her strength and a positive attitude. And I love you and pray for your peace. Hugs and cupcakes, my friend.
2nd-Jun-2009 05:16 pm (UTC)
Thank you sweetie! I think it's getting to be time for me to drive up and share cupcakes with you, for real. Or at LEAST some Cracker Barrel cobbler!
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